Everybody
wants to stay happy, but you will find two persons in the same situation to
react differently to derive either happiness or sadness. Why does it happen?
Famous management expert Dale Carnegie says that happiness doesn’t depend upon
who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think. Yes, there
may be umpteen reasons to stay happy or unhappy. But if you review your daily
engagements and try to understand which are the activities that make you
naturally happy, then it becomes easier to decide which activities you should
be engaged in more to stay happy most of the time. Anyway, you can stay happy
if you can implement the following five simple tips in your day-to-day life
without comparing yourself with any other individual.
1)
Knowing yourself well is very important. To do this you have to evaluate and
analyse yourself objectively. Here it is necessary to understand what you
actually want to do and what you should do to realise that. Yes, you must
examine that your dreams, desires, goals and activities are pragmatic,
achievable, socially ethical and legally permissible. It is very true that bad
activities result in bad consequences. To make yourself performing and happy,
you have to resolve strongly that whatever you have decided to do, you would do
it very sincerely and continue to love yourself both in times of success as
well as failure. If something goes wrong knowingly or unknowingly, you should
accept it immediately and try your best to rectify the error or wrong doing without
any delay. But remember not to feel rejected and dejected in any case.
2)
Try to live in the present and keep yourself physically and mentally healthy in
every respect. Past is past, leave it there. That time will not come back. To
ensure a better future you have to act well in the present moment. In any case,
the coming moment is just the next moment and if you fail to cultivate the
habit of doing justice to the present moment, the outcome of the next moment
can’t be better. So, if you want to be happy now and always, neither dwell in
the past nor worry about the future, but focus on living fully in the present.
Gautam Buddha also says that each morning you are born again. What you do today
is most important. Therefore, live in the present nicely and enjoy life in a
better manner.
3)
Instead of being over conscious and concerned about how people will react or
what they will say about what you do, focus on improving yourself to do better
in other areas of your interest. Prepare a list of such activities or works
keeping in view your short-term and long-term goals. This will ensure that
nothing significant and urgent is left out and hence all works are accomplished
as per your set plan. This is necessary to receive a regular dose of motivation
and happiness as well. Yes, it is better to always keep in mind the advice of
Chankya that when you commence any work, don’t ever think of the failure and
never abandon that work. Those who perform work honestly and sincerely, they
stay happier and are more successful.
4)
Commence the day and end the day nicely. You must have felt that the day which
went well had commenced well. That is why it is said that well begun is half
done and all’s well that ends well. On the contrary, when the day begins badly,
you feel bad the whole day and even the normal and routine work is not
performed rightly. So, it is clear that you perform well when you are happy or
you feel happy when you perform well. To say, both your performance and
happiness are inter-related. Moreover, when the day concludes nicely, you sleep
well which affects your health, productivity and happiness significantly.
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