Committing mistakes or
even blunders is not abnormal in human life. It's not unusual
to realize the same and then repent for the wrongdoings either.
It happens with all of us, maybe in varying frequency. Based on our normal
learning and also on our traditional value system, we are expected to take a
lesson from the whole thing and also take a firm resolve not to repeat the same
mistake again in future, to finally move forward in the course of life's
journey with a positive note. In this way, some of us do try to follow the best
principles governing the life of all better people including the great men
across the globe.
But if we look around to observe what many of us are actually doing in this respect, it is found that committing mistakes and repenting thereafter goes on parallel track again and again despite a firm resolve at times and in spite of going through some punishments too.
Interestingly, this group of people are found to
follow predominantly either of these two behaviour patterns -
Submissive or Aggressive in their day-to-day life. Of course,
nobody behaves in exactly the same way throughout the day. It depends on many
factors including the circumstances and the action or response of another
engaging person. The overlapping impact is at times noticeable in their
behaviour. But it is true that primarily everybody follows one or the other
behaviour pattern.
These sets of people
(submissive & aggressive) either do not know when to speak, what
to speak or when it is far better to simply remain silent. Similarly, they keep
on doing things badly without thinking, realising and reviewing. They
either fail to take a firm stand or do take a stand but fail to present their
point of view clearly and logically. This is visibly reflected in their
interaction and working style almost everywhere including the place where they
work. Interestingly, both submissive and aggressive persons are opposite in
their basic nature and normally suffer from inferiority and superiority
complexes respectively which lead them to have health issues like hypertension,
diabetes, kidney problems, to name a few.
Persons having submissive behaviour patterns are primarily of 'Yes, Sir' kind. They are inclined or by nature willing to submit to the orders and wishes of others, more so of their superior authority. In other words, this set of people are ready to say 'yes, sir' to their bosses or to powerful persons for any right or wrong thing, no matter whether they might spend sleepless nights afterwards or pay a heavy price for this today or tomorrow.
On the other
hand, aggressive persons generally try to dictate their terms and
behave in the 'Shouting & Firing' mode. They show the gesture of
one-upmanship in their actions and try to remain okay at the cost of others. Normally, this group of persons dislike individuals who are
straightforward, meritorious, planned, analytical and unbiased. Instead, they
like submissive people the most and hence keep themselves surrounded by such
yes-men.
To say, these two sets of people - submissive and aggressive, generally commit mistakes after mistakes, and then repent at times. Ironically, aggressive ones always try to put the blame conveniently on their subordinates and on circumstantial factors. On the other side, the submissive ones are found to be willing to take the responsibility even for the mistakes which they have not committed. But truth being otherwise, it keeps on chasing both submissive and aggressive persons, which ultimately result in self-created disproportionate stress and related major health problems - both mental and physical.
Then, what should one do? Is it easy and doable? Yes, 100%. In order to ensure a healthy and happy living, it is desirable to ‘Be Assertive’ in one’s behaviour instead of being submissive or aggressive. In fact, being assertive is nothing but being confident, caring, communicative, mature, methodical, frank, balanced, decisive, empathetic, objective, humorous, relaxed and logical. Undeniably, such positive traits in one's personality do guarantee a better living in any situation anywhere across the world.
Hence, it is better to review your existing behaviour pattern discreetly, start taking corrective measures gradually with regular impact evaluation and finally be an assertive person to lead a far more meaningful life
As always, I'm keen to know what you think on this subject. Hence, I request you to post your comments to share your valuable opinion. (hellomilansinha@gmail.com)
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